Xmas are approaching! Isn’t that time to celebrate? Not for you. If you are single fearing appearing alone during the holidays, the might want the festivities to pass as quickly as possible. “No period of the year might be thus dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If only I had someone to become with, things would have been different”, you whisper to make sure you yourself time and again.
Use the holiday season to figure out how not to get alone next year. Perhaps you believe that such advice is ridiculous. Why to think about after that year when this year’s holidays are approaching? Associated with simple: if you have been sole for a long time, what guarantee have you seen that you will not be simple next year as well?
The odds probably do not work in your favour! Therefore, it can be up to you to do something on the subject of your situation. Therefore, you may want to make use of the holidays this year to figure out how to make a change for next season! How can you use this year’s holidays to become able to have a bond next year?
Using the excursions to think these over might help you understand the true reasons for ones failures. You might find, for example, there exists patterns of behaviors that repeat themselves throughout the necessary past-relationships which always brought about conflicts between you your partners.
Could it really be that you just did all you could to look through partner with whom to develop a good relationship but don’t have luck? Well, all of these can serve you as motives and rationalizations to not getting good results. But is it really the case? Or could there be other reasons for your failed attempts? Could it be that an issue in you hinders and prevents you from using a successful relationship?
The secret to help you doing so is developing Self-Awareness: getting to understand why you were not able to develop a successful intimacy so far; what made you will fail in your relationships up to now. Is it really so that you merely didn’t come across partners who had been good enough for you? Is it really so that there were “external conditions” which made it impossible so you might develop and maintain a successful intimacy?
What makes you think that between now and then a miracle will happen and out-of-the-blue you will have a wonderful relationship? If you have been failing with having a wonderful relationship as yet, what are the odds that you will reach having one next season?
Using the holidays’ time for them to figure out what are the true causes of your inability to have a serious, meaningful, satisfying intimacy, is known as a time well-spent. The ideas you’ll gain will provide help to find a suitable partner with whom to develop and maintain a thriving intimacy.
Or you might find out that you haven’t been successful obtaining a partner until now not because no “suitable” partner came up your way, but because you ended up being over-afraid about developing a long-term serious relationship (for an individual reason or another); and that you are so needy and dependent on whomever you went with that they terminated the relationship; or that you were thus controlling and demanding a growing number of of your dates just denied your attempts to getting finer and maybe even to transferring together.